StoryCorps Northwest: Puyallap Tribe Member Remembers Mother’s Disappearance 20 Years Later

BY KELLY MOFFITT & LINDSEY FEINGOLD

It’s been 20 years since Carolyn DeFord, a member of the Puyallup tribe, last saw her mother, Leona Kinsey in La Grande, Ore.

DeFord was raised by Kinsey in a trailer park in La Grande. She remembers her mother as independent and self-sufficient, working odd jobs to scrape by.

But in 1999, at the age of 45, Kinsey went missing and was never seen again. With her disappearance, she joined the countless Native American women who have gone missing without a trace, their cases often never tracked by local police departments.

Carolyn DeFord poses with her mother and daughter in La Grande, Oregon in their last photograph together before Leona disappeared in 1999.

In a recent interview with StoryCorps, DeFord recounted the story of her mother’s disappearance.

It all began when Kinsey failed to show up to a friend’s house, and then for three straight days, didn’t respond to her daughter’s messages. Worried, DeFord filed a missing persons report.

Two days later, a friend found Kinsey’s abandoned car in a grocery store parking lot. Fearing the worst, DeFord flew from her home in Washington to her mother’s home in La Grande.

When DeFord arrived at her mom’s house, her two dogs were locked outside; her cat was still inside.

“There was still coffee in the coffee pot. She had groceries. She had bread,” DeFord says. “I went in her room and I laid down on her bed for a second and I could smell her in the pillows and I just cried.”

Then she found her mom’s purse, which had a pager with all the worried messages DeFord had left.

“I had this great hope that I would call and make the missing person’s report and the police would just find her,” she says. “That’s what they do right? They find people.”

Since the disappearance, DeFord raised a family and now works for the Puyallup Tribe in Washington as a senior administrative assistant. But even after 20 years, she says the grieving never ends.

“Sometimes it surfaces with the same rawness as if it was yesterday,” she says.

What makes things especially painful is the absence of closure, never knowing what happened.

“For the rest of the world, losing somebody, there’s a grieving process … when someone’s missing, you don’t get to go somewhere to honor them,” DeFord says. She’s never held a funeral or a ceremony for her mother.

“There’s no day out of the year, you know.”

Kinsey’s case remains unsolved and DeFord says there won’t be a ceremony or funeral until a resolution is found. She now works to help the families of other missing and murdered indigenous women.

“This year, I’m the age she was when she disappeared,” DeFord says. “There’s something about that.”

Audio produced for Morning Edition by Kelly Moffitt.

StoryCorps is a national nonprofit that gives people the chance to interview friends and loved ones about their lives. These conversations are archived at the American Folklife Center at the Library of Congress, allowing participants to leave a legacy for future generations. Learn more, including how to interview someone in your life, at StoryCorps.org.